9.30.2009

Assembly plant



Here's a link to something I've been working on to get ready for the ominous winter that lay ahead.  Plants keep my spirits high, while simultaneously improving my air quality.  It's a win-win.

And since I will most likely be making a move in the near future, and knowing that plants are a huge pain in the ass to move with, these will be perfect!

I've also recently acquired these really neat beakers from work to continue my spawning.  I feel like a mad scientist (I like it).






9.23.2009

I'm fine, thanks.

There's a phenomenon that has only been observed in the human race (perhaps because we're the ones with advanced language) that when asked, "How are you?", as to not play the weakling, we say, "fine." Even when lying on our deathbed, or after a father passes away, or someone breaks your heart, or you break someone else's heart. This is commonly known as taking one's courage in both hands.  


I don't know if this is courageous at all.

Spontaneity

If before every action, we were to begin by weighing the consequences, then the probable, then the possible, then the imaginable ones, we would never move beyond the point where our first thought brought us to a halt.

This is why I'm spontaneous.

8.17.2009

"Sadie" -Joanna Newsom



I've never been one to be too concerned with lyrics. I never remember them; no matter how much I want to. (And yes, I am that asshole who sings without knowing the words or sings what I think to be the correct words.) I typically like a song for the overall feeling it gives me or because it just sounds good or makes me move. However, in few instances, certain lyrics will strike a chord inside.

Though I don't particularly love Joanna's voice, there's something ethereal about it. She has a provocative cadence that makes her singing interesting. And, wow, these lyrics are beautiful.

Sadie, white coat,
you carry me home.
And bury this bone,
take this pinecone.

Bury this bone
to gnaw on it later; gnawing on the telephone.
'Till then, we pray & suspend
the notion that these lives do never end.

And all day long we talk about mercy:
lead me to water lord, I sure am thirsty.
Down in the ditch where I nearly served you,
up in the clouds where he almost heard you

And all that we built,
and all that we breathed,
and all that we spilt, or pulled up like weeds
is piled up in back;
it burns irrevocably.
(we spoke up in turns,
'till the silence crept over me)

Bless you
and I deeply do
no longer resolute
oh, and I call to you

But the water got so cold,
and you do lose
what you don't hold.

This is an old song,
these are old blues.
This is not my tune,
but it's mine to use.
And the seabirds
where the fear once grew
will flock with a fury,
and they will bury what'd come for you

Down where I darn with the milk-eyed mender
you and I, and a love so tender,
is stretched-on the hoop where I stitch-this addage:
"Bless our house and its heart so savage."

And all that I want, and all that I need
and all that I've got is scattered like seed.
And all that I knew is moving away from me.
(and all that I know is blowing
like tumbleweed)

And the mealy worms
in the brine will burn
in a salty pyre,
among the fauns and ferns.

And the love we hold,
and the love we spurn,
will never grow cold
only taciturn.

And I'll tell you tomorrow.
Sadie, go on home now.
Bless those who've sickened below;
bless us who've chosen so.

And all that I've got
and all that I need
I tie in a knot
that I lay at your feet.
I have not forgot,
but a silence crept over me.
(So dig up your bone,
exhume your pinecone, my Sadie)


I don't like to over-analyze an artist's intent or purpose of a song because the beauty- literally and figuratively- of art is in the eye of the beholder. So, perhaps this song's about losing a dog and the mortality that we don't recognize (until it's too late). Maybe it's about loving someone and not talking to them (we all know about this), or the universal fear we all have of growing older and our worlds changing (endlessly). It could be about the challenge of the letting go/holding on to memories, and that ultimately we should all slow our pace. Conceivable, it could be a song about faith v. science or the reconciliation of the two. Whatever her point is, whatever mine is- I like these words.

Just thought I'd share them.



Bing gan

The woman at work gave me a fortune cookie today. It read:

"You will move to a wonderful new home within the year."

Synchronicity!

8.06.2009

My mentor


My favorite place to be is on a continental coast with my ugly feet (thanks Dad) in the salty water. I love looking out over the expanse and feeling so small and insignificant, but empowered simultaneously. The ocean inspires me more than anything; it's a conundrum- my mind at peace, yet in a rapid procession of thought (think strobe light-like).

I feel like I'm currently standing on that edge of greatness now- looking at my future and feeling insipred. I haven't felt like this since being back in the States, and man, does it feel good. I'm focused. If only I didn't have to wait on this shore for another year before taking that next step.

I'll just have to settle with my feet getting wet- that's a good place too.


8.02.2009

Spankrainian






In honor of the languages I've once spoken- now only as a conglomerate in my dreams, I've chosen two poems to remind me that they exist independently and in real time.

KEEPING QUIET
Pablo Neruda

Now we will count to twelve
and we will all keep still.

This one time upon the earth,
let's not speak any language,
let's stop for one second,
and not move our arms so much.

It would be a delicious moment,
without hurry, without locomotives,
all of us would be together
in a sudden uneasiness.

The fishermen in the cold sea
would do no harm to the whales
and the peasant gathering salt
would look at his torn hands.

Those who prepare green wars,
wars of gas, wars of fire,
victories without survivors,
would put on clean clothing
and would walk alongside their brothers
in the shade, without doing a thing.

What I want shouldn't be confused
with final inactivity:
life alone is what matters,
I want nothing to do with death.

If we weren't unanimous
about keeping our lives so much in motion,

if we could do nothing for once,
perhaps a great silence would
interrupt this sadness,
this never understanding ourselves
and threatening ourselves with death,
perhaps the earth is teaching us
when everything seems to be dead
and then everything is alive.

Now I will count to twelve
and you keep quiet and I'll go.






A CALLARSE
Pablo Neruda

Ahora contaremos doce
y nos quedamos todos quietos.
Por una vez sobre la tierra
no hablemos en ningun idioma,
por un segundo detengamonos,
no movamos tanto los brazos.

Seria un minuto fragante,
sin prisa, sin locomotoras,
todos estariamos juntos
en una inquietud instantanea.

Los pescadores del mar frio
no harian danio a las ballenas
y el trabajador de la sal
miraria sus manos rotas.

Los que preparan guerras verdes,
guerras de gas, guerras de fuego,
victorias sin sobrevivientes,
se pondrian un traje puro
y andarian con sus hermanos
por la sombra, sin hacer nada.

No se confunda lo que quiero
con la inaccion definitiva:
la vida es solo lo que se hace,
no quiero nada con la muerte.

Si no pudimos ser unanimes
moviendo tanto nuestras vidas,
tal vez no hacer nada una vez,
tal vez un gran silencio pueda
interrumpir esta tristeza,
este no entendernos jamas
y amenazarnos con la muerte,
tal vez la tierra nos ensenie
cuando todo parece muerto
y luego todo estaba vivo.

Ahora contare hasta doce
y tu te callas y me voy.




ПЕРГАМЕН ПАМ`ЯТІ
Вадим Лесич


Пергами пам`яті пом`ятий, не шелестить,

як шумлять затьмарені сади вечора

і вітер гне, наче лук, дугу далечі

і луки ликують під фіялками сутінку.

Бурий дим - і округла, мов гльоб, порожнеча.
Дим від кострубатих кістяків життя,

що попеліють.
Порожнеча, яка чекає на повноту.



Пергамен пам`яті іржаво

запалює свічі на вівтарі вечора.

Мов мох полярний - синіють приморозки.

Під білими зорями тремтить,

мов павутиння, музика Гріга.

Речі зовсім не пов`язані, що існують
окремо кожне для себе, -

але, наче доспілі овочі з різних дерев,

- падають важко у тиші саду
на землю, що меркне в чеканні.



Тіні стають, мов дерева,

і дерева стають, мов тіні.

Пергамен пам`яті
зашелестів

піском розбитих дзеркал

у розсипаній пустині.







THE PARCHMENT OF MEMORY

Vadym Lesych


The parchment of memory changing, not rustling,

like sound darkening gardens yesterday

and wind bends, as if a bow, the arch of distance

and meadows rejoice below the violets of twilight.

Chestnut smoke - and around me, like a globe, emptiness.

Smoke from the rough skeleton of life,

that turn to ashes.
Emptiness, which waits for fullness.


The parchment of memory rustily

lights candles on the altar of evening.

As polar moss - bluing frosts.
Under white stars trembles,

as if a cob webs, the music of Grieg.

Things totally unbound, that exist
each for itself,-
but, as ripened fruit from different trees,
- falling heavily in the silence of the orchard
to earth, which fades in waiting.

Shadows become as trees,
and tress become as shadows.
The parchment of memory rustles,
the sand of shattered mirrors
in the spilled desert.


7.20.2009

Perfect strangers really are perfect.


One of the greatest things that I have learned while traveling this beautiful world is that you have to trust people.  I have trusted complete strangers with my life in many strange situations; I've never been let down.  I've found that people are inherently good.  
I let a man lead me into a sandcastle oasis in the middle of the Sahara desert with no grasp of the French language for survival.  We had the best dinner and accommodations that night at a fair price.  


I let a nice Dutch woman drive me into the middle-of-nowhere Burgundy, only to be dropped off at a goat cheese farm. The following day was the best day of my life.


People are good.  But why is it that perfect strangers can be so helpful, caring ,and respectful, but people you care about disappoint.  Trust means enabling other people to take advantage of your vulnerabilities- but expecting that they will not do this.  And the only people to have crossed this line have been two people that I've really cared about.

It's a disappointment.


It hurts me to think that I can trust complete strangers more than people I know.  


7.16.2009

El gato tiene una risa muy contagiosa

My friend dropped his newly-purchased eggs as he walked into his apartment only to find that his new quart of milk had gone bad because his electricity had been turned off.  The money he'd been saving up to finally pay off his credit cards is now going to turn his lights back on.  His car broke down last week.  His friends all turned him down when he needed to borrow a car today to drive to a gig.

He called me and we had a good laugh.

Sometimes, times are rough.

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I've found though that as one door closes another opens.  All those open doors aren't meant to be walked through, but it provides a possibility to reassess if you're at the right house, so to speak.  So, even if you don't walk over that threshold, there's still much to be gained.

7.11.2009

Puppy love


I've never been one to relate to animals.  I don't particularly love them.  Don't get me wrong, baby anythings are adorable.  Only a despicable person wouldn't find a baby bunny or puppy cute.  However, today Stan (my sister's dog) and I had a moment where we found ourselves on the same page.  I glanced over at him while exiting my room to run upstairs to grab some polish remover.  He had his jaws clenched on his "stress-relieving" stuffed beagle who laid lifeless between his teeth.  Stan looked unfulfilled and underwhelmed at best.  I just said to him, "Stan, I know how you feel."

On second thought, maybe I should have said, "little stuffed beagle, I know how you feel".

7.07.2009

The plunge.

Sometimes I wish answers were as easy as shaking a magic eight ball.  Is flipping a coin putting too much stock in fate?  People keep telling me to go with my gut, but my gut feels like a sandstorm.  What the fuck does that mean?

Ultimately, it's not that big of a deal.  It's ten months away from my family (not friends, since I haven't been around them much anyway) again.  Ten months living in a shitty apartment with no friends.  Ten more months of not being in a romantic relationship.  Ten more months of being poor.  Ten months with bugs, scarce water, and the same raggedy clothes.  Ten more months before "settling down" in America. Ten months of dust or mud.

But ten months of learning a new culture.  Ten months of great job training.  Ten months of sun.  Ten months to test myself again.  Ten months of meeting new people.  Ten months not being in Detroit.

Ughhh.  Who knows how to read tea leaves?

6.29.2009

Game Over- you lose.


It's no surprise to people that know me- I love games, particularly game shows.  Super nerdy, I know.  I suppose I just like the act of competition.  I never really care if I win, I just like competing and talking trash.  Of course winning is more fun than losing, but I have fun no matter the outcome.

There was one summer when I was living with my sister and her husband.  That summer I knew the GSN (Game Show Network) daily schedule from 8:00 a.m.- 12:00 a.m.  No joke.  And there were three solid hours a day that I watched Press Your Luck, Card Sharks, $10,000 and $25,000 Pyramid, and rounding it out with Family Feud.  This is not one of my prouder moments, but I'm not ashamed either.  I've been told I have an old soul- old ladies like game shows...and bridge.

So, I sit here alone on a Monday night with a big house to myself.  It's lonely being in a large house by oneself.  I've decided that it's something I never want.  I will never need this much space.

But what am I doing on this Monday?  Well, I'm watching game shows.  Yes, I'm awesome.  And I've come to the conclusion that one of the loneliest jobs has to be that of a game show host.  I've always felt bad for them- all of them.  They seem sad, pathetic, washed up, and just well, douchy.

The majority of game show hosts are washed up actors nowadays.  That in itself is a sad fall from grace.  Just imagine "having it all" and losing it.  Then feeling like your best move to regain whatever you lost would be hosting a game show that only airs at 2:00 Saturday afternoons on the Game Show Network.  Jesus, it's hard to watch.

In the beginning, I believe it was kind of an honor to get to host a game show as an actor.  A prime example is the original host of Family Feud- Richard Dawson (uncomfortable kissing extraordinaire).  He was so successful that he won a Daytime Emmy, but he was the original sleazeball.  In 1976, a game show host was a great career move- upward mobility- you probably got a lot of ass, had a great pinky ring collection and all...but at some point, between then and now, this all collapsed.  The only thing that still remains from the heyday of game show hosting is the sleaziness.  It truly is painful watching collarless-shirt-adorned Howie Mandel, Danny Bonaduce, Richard Karn, and Will's cousin from Fresh Prince try to make me laugh with atrociously-written jokes.

My conclusion: I will never live in a big house.
    I will never host a game show- I don't like losing at the game of life.

6.10.2009

Hutzel love


Up until a few year ago I couldn't sleep without part of my body being covered.  Big toe, left arm, lower half of face, etc.  But, something changed when I got to Ukraine.  Maybe it was because I was too cheap to ever buy a fan in the dead of summer.  Maybe I just got so hot that even my pinkie finger being covered was too much.  I don't know...but now I can sleep sans cover.

However, despite the heat, today I didn't.  In fact, I took a nap with my favorite blanket.  This blanket means a lot to me.  It's like an old lover- comfortable, secure, and reliable.

5.28.2009

Cruisin' down High, Long Lake, and through the country

We've all had the experience of listening to a particular song or album and being transported back in time to a specific moment. For this reason it's hard for me to listen to a lot of Ryan Adams, Radiohead, anything emo, Iron and Wine, or Death Cab. All for different reasons.

Anyway, I was at the Yeah Yeah Yeah's concert last night and was reminded of my many friends all over the globe who I've shared some intense times with...good and bad. It's almost as if I was transplanted to driving down High St. with Kat or smoking a joint with Abbey on her deck. Or having a power hour with Laura in her dirty-ass Ukrainian apartment whilst eating red beans and rice.

The power of music is really amazing. Often while driving and listening to the radio, "Hey Jude" will come on the radio and I can't help but cry. I remember one particular day, maybe 8 years ago, driving into the setting sun on Long Lake and hearing that song and having to pull over because of the flood of tears. It reminds me of my dad...every time.

Iron and Wine will eternally remind me of train travel. It was my default train music in Ukraine and did I ride those trains. Weekly. I can always picture the flat Ukrainian countryside whizzing (generously speaking) past me and catching glimpses of a foreign people's life. Wooden carts stacked so high with hay. The fields set afire at the end of harvest. It reminds me of the unbearable heat and cold I experienced and the random/weird conversations I got myself into. The dirty glances, the toothless smiles (though rare-the smile part, not the toothless). Sometimes I put these albums on just for this reason...to go back. Nostalgia.

I actually started writing this about friends and the difficulty it is to meet good quality people. I've gone out now with some internet people- I know, I know. Lame, but I'm not sure how else to go about meeting people now. I can't say I've had any horrible experiences, but it really just makes me miss my friends more. So many of these people are just not interesting. They have nothing to say. They don't "do" anything. Yeah, they work- and that's it. That's not how I live or want to live. I enjoy going out and experiencing different things. I enjoy being pushed to the limit of my comfort zone (I'm meeting people online, aren't I?). Maybe these people are just so hard up for a date or love that they try too hard. I don't know. I'm not looking for anything now except some good friends. Is that too much to ask? I want some cool ass, smart, fun, intelligent friends. I know it takes time, but shit. I just want some porch friends. Does that make sense to you? (you know who you are)

I want friends that make me feel the way "1979" makes you feel. I want friends to create good and bad music memories with. I want friends that will put a song on the juke box just for me and then glance across the bar to shoot you that "yeyah, you know what I'm talking about" look. 

4.26.2009

My? swollen eyes

My eyes feel like they're going to fall out of my head.

I've had one of the worst weeks in a really, really long time.  It started last Sunday when the first guy I've liked and dated in awhile, suddenly called things quits (via text message ) and said some hurtful, yet honest, things (via AIM).  Why not a Post-it?.  We hit it off well, so it stung bad. Needless to say, Monday was a long day at work of crazy thoughts going through my mind. We've since decided to try to stay friends; something I'd really like to happen.  So the week was on an upswing until...

my mom decided that last night at 3:00 a.m. would be the perfect time to tell me all the things she doesn't like about me, things I do wrong, and all the things I need to improve.  The rant continued with all the things I need to do to get my life sorted out...as if she somehow thought she was enlightening me, as if I'm completely unaware of how bad my life sucks right now, as if these things aren't running through my mind 90% of my waking time.  Then, Terry decided he wanted to add his two sense in, and because I attempted to respond to one of his questions, kicked me out of the house.  So I left and went for an hour-long walk in Pontiac at 4:00 a.m.  I must have looked like a crazy whore walking around crying in a skirt and trench coat.  Shit- total drama.  I finally made it back around 5:00 not feeling any better.  

You know in the movies, when someone gets the shit kicked out of them by relentless thugs...when the guys just keep kicking and throwing punches even when the dude's down...?  Emotionally, that's how I'm feeling this week.   I just feel like I'm living my life this week through the eyes of someone else, creepily spying on me from behind a tree in the distance.  

And now these spying, emotionally-drained eyes feel like they're going to fall out of my head.  I wish they would, so I could get mine back.

4.20.2009

Give a dog a bone

Ever had the rug pulled out from under you?  It's not an awesome feeling.  

I am extremely patient, but I'd really like a bone sent my way.  

4.07.2009

Four months later

I was a little intoxicated the other night and made a realization about something that happened to me (and I suspect I'm not alone in this amongst fellow volunteers) while in Ukraine. I was alone A LOT in Ukraine and I grew to really like it- but that's beside the point.  What inadvertently happened was that "me" as a person became very defined.  I grew more into an individual because I was alone so much and had to find ways to entertain myself.  This forced me to really discover what it is that keeps me going, what my true interests are...

I had little access to a television (it only worked if my neighbor was watching TV), internet, pop culture, news, etc... Therefore, the things that I did look up on the internet were things that were important to me.  I didn't spend hours searching for stupid shit- I was paying for my time.  I didn't get force fed info and ideas.  I went specifically searching.  This is the same with television. Ideas, shows, concepts, products were not involuntary.  I made a point to learn something, so I cultivated a more intense sense of identity as a result.  I consider this to be a really cool side effect of my experience in Ukraine.  

Also, I now realize that what I learned from this experience will continue for the rest of my life.  My learning didn't halt in December.  Revelations will present themselves to me for the rest of my life.  Just another reason that I will never regret those 27 months, no matter how alone I felt sometimes, how cold my toes were at nights, how many frowns I grew to abhor, or how high of an alcohol tolerance I came back with.

3.30.2009

Purple Heart

I've always been one who values quality over quantity.  This is especially true of the people I choose to be around and befriend.  I truly believe I have some of the most intelligent, funny, talented, and compassionate friends around.  I feel lucky.  (This is a disclaimer for the following...)

This past weekend I visited C-bus for the Color: Purple show.  I always feel rejuvenated after spending time around my friends; this time included.  Even though the visit was brief, it energized me and made me feel at home.  However, it made me realize that C-bus is not the place for me anymore.  This takes nothing away from my friends, but reaffirmed that people come and go, but real friends are there for you no matter- even distance.  (I know, this is cliche, but cliches exist for a reason.)  I know I keep writing about "home" and "being in Detroit", blah blah blah, but it's a difficult thing for me to wrap my mind around.  I feel better about being here though after this last visit and I can't exactly figure out why, but some things are better felt than said. 

My life is slowly coming together here.  Hopefully in the coming months I can get a car, my own apartment, and thus, independence!  So if I could just transplant all my friends to D-troit, my life would be complete.  But, I'll be okay with a 3.5 hour drive every now and again too.

3.17.2009

I miss not missing

Maybe I've set myself up to be in the situations that I've been in for the past, I don't know- 3 years, but I'm sick of missing things.  It's not a particularly good feeling and one that prevents me from living in the present to some extent.  When you have a longing for something that isn't present, do you really enjoy and appreciate what you have.  I always try to stay positive, but sometimes this missing overtakes me.  I also always try to live in the present, so this makes for personal struggle within.

In Ukraine I missed people- friends and family, even the familiar faces of people around town that I didn't necessarily know.  I missed the familiarity of home.  I missed spice, diversity, art, movies, going to the Park of Roses and reading on a blanket, affection, kayaking- the list could go on.  The only good thing about this particular situation was that I knew, more or less, what I was getting myself into.  (Okay, rabid dogs, frozen bodies, and rogue ears not included.)  So mentally and emotionally I was as prepared as I could be for this missing.

What I didn't expect was all the things I would miss once I got home.  I guess I mistakenly equivocated missing with not being home.  But, then again, I suppose home is an elusive idea for me.   I miss Ukraine, but it's not the overwhelming missing feeling that I feel towards other unexpected things.  I really miss having a sanctuary all my own.  Yeah, I have that personal sanctuary inside, but physically, I don't have a place to call mine.  This bothers me a lot.  I've been on my own for almost 8 years, and now I live with mom.  Shit.  It could be worse, yes.  But, I can't listen to my music at my volume, can't cook what I want, how I want, walk from the bathroom naked, have an intense painting night and leave things out for tomorrow...Again, this list could go on.  Anyone who knows me knows that I am an extremely independent person and that intensified, for better or worse, living alone in Ukraine.  

I miss knowing where I'm going.  I miss knowing where to go.  I miss having someone to go with.  I miss live music.  I miss wine nights with good friends.  I miss feeling productive and like I'm contributing something positive to society.  I miss not owning a TV and reading (yes, this is my own American weakness).  

When will this missing end?  I hope I haven't set myself up for a life of missing things.  That's no way to live.